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Try this instead: powerful alternatives to negative self-talk

Negative self-talk wears you down. This post offers gentle, practical alternatives to the most common inner criticisms. Whether youโ€™re battling anxiety, shame, or perfectionism, these reframed thoughts can help you heal from within and speak to yourself with more compassion and clarity

Instead of saying, “I know what it feels like,” let’s say, “I cannot imagine your heartbreak.”

Instead of saying, “You’re strong; you’ll get through this,” let’s say, “You’ll hurt, and I’ll be here.”

Instead of saying, “You look like you’re doing well,” let’s say, “How are you holding up today?”

Instead of saying, “Healing takes time,” let’s say, “Healing has no timeline.”

Instead of saying, “Everything happens for a reason,” let’s say, “This must feel so terribly senseless right now.”

And when there are no words to say at all, you don’t need to try and find some. Love speaks in silences too.

~ ‘Words’ by Ullie-Kaye

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