{"id":10238,"date":"2025-07-01T08:51:47","date_gmt":"2025-06-30T23:21:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindblownpsychology.com\/?p=10238"},"modified":"2025-07-01T08:51:47","modified_gmt":"2025-06-30T23:21:47","slug":"gentler-thoughts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/leehopkins.com\/vi\/gentler-thoughts\/","title":{"rendered":"Try this instead: powerful alternatives to negative self-talk"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"\">Instead of saying, &#8220;I know what it feels like,&#8221; let&#8217;s say, &#8220;I cannot imagine your heartbreak.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Instead of saying, &#8220;You&#8217;re strong; you&#8217;ll get through this,&#8221; let&#8217;s say, &#8220;You&#8217;ll hurt, and I&#8217;ll be here.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Instead of saying, &#8220;You look like you&#8217;re doing well,&#8221; let&#8217;s say, &#8220;How are you holding up today?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Instead of saying, &#8220;Healing takes time,&#8221; let&#8217;s say, &#8220;Healing has no timeline.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Instead of saying, &#8220;Everything happens for a reason,&#8221; let&#8217;s say, &#8220;This must feel so terribly senseless right now.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">And when there are no words to say at all, you don&#8217;t need to try and find some. 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